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Jacqui Beck: How do you wish people would respond to you?
Finnbar: It would depend where they were in their lives. If it wasn’t someone I’d interacted with before, I suppose a gentle curiosity would be nice. You know, nothing sort of accusatory or assuming.
But also, I would really want them to spend some personal time with it,
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Jenn [talking about her childhood]: I had no one to talk to talk about [feeling like I was a girl], no one to turn to. But I’m pretty sure that I told [someone at my] school. I went to a counselor and I was having huge emotional feelings and I didn’t know what to do with them. Continue reading
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Johnnie: [This is] my message in the community: Our problem is us, and not believing in ourselves. I mean, think about it, people! And I say this every time I get the opportunity to stand in front of a group: The problem is us. It’s not people accepting us, it’s us accepting ourselves. Continue reading
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Judy: One Christmas, my sister was there with me, and when we were opening gifts, I got a new baseball mitt. My sister got a party dress, and all the girls went upstairs and tried it on and were ooing and ahhing at how beautiful it was, and the whole thing… and I wanted so much to be among them.
I didn’t want a baseball mitt. That’s my very first recollection. Continue reading
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Jacqui: What do you want others to understand about how you experience yourself and your gender?
Laura: That it’s not something new, and that I don’t feel like I was keeping secrets from anyone . . . that to a great extent, everybody in my life is learning about this on nearly the same learning curve as I am. That I’ve always experienced myself the way that I do now, but had either fewer words or less ability to articulate it.
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Rafael/a: Coming into hormones and then later surgery, was like, I have something. I planned something for myself. I’m looking towards this thing, and because I’m doing this thing, that means I’m changing because I want to be here. [...] the fact that you’re investing in doing this thing means that you’re going to be here after that event also, like after the surgery.
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Zoë: It wasn’t a decision; it was a realization of who I am.
I was four when I first asked to get a dress. I asked my mom a few times, and eventually she. . .most of the time she just said ‘yes we can,’ but we didn’t actually do it. But one time I asked and she did say we could so we went to Goodwill Continue reading
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Aidan: Younger people, kids, can sometimes take to an activity much more quickly. They can get the basics and then fly with it much more quickly than adults who might have some already packaged-up expectations.
So in the same respect the younger generations, like the kids of the families in the support groups, they’re light-years ahead of their parents at nine years old, in terms of understanding gender and who they are in the world.